March 26, 2025

Hello my sweet, wonderful, beautiful humans! 🫶🏻

This is my last week of having an open schedule before I start my new job, and I’ve been making the most of it. I’ve been cleaning like a mad woman (deep cleaning is my spiritual reset), devouring books (I’m already eight down this year), and writing like my life depends on it. Don’t worry, that won’t be stopping when I start my new job. I’ve also been doing a little shopping since I’ll be hybrid now, and I swear I feel like I’m getting ready to go back to school. I even bought a new lunch bag. The excitement is so real 🤗

And the outfits? Don’t even get me started. I’m already mentally piecing them together and imagining my entrance back into the office. If you know, you know. For those who are invested, I’ll be giving a full update on my new job next week once I settle in. For those who aren’t as interested in that part, feel free to skip the life update and jump right into today’s quote because this one… well I think this one was written for me or about me?!

“So you’re telling me that for a decade you binge drank alcohol and caffeine, took Adderall and hormonal birth control, pulled all-nighters, skipped meals, over-exercised, depleted all your mineral stores, avoided carbs like the plague except for 4am greasy drunk food, lathered yourself in poisonous tanning lotions before fake baking, put bleached tampons in your vagina every month, were addicted to chaos and toxic relationships, lived in moldy apartments, spent years performing, people-pleasing, and comparing yourself to the fake lives of IG influencers… and now you’re frustrated that you’re not miraculously healed 3 months into your health and healing journey?” Anonymous ✨

Brutal. When I first read this, I had to pause and take a breath because it felt like whoever wrote it had been following me around for the past decade+. I mean, ouch. But also… truth. Let’s talk about it… well…because that’s why we are here 😜

We live in a world where instant gratification is the norm. Everything happens now. You’re hungry? Order DoorDash. Need a new outfit? Amazon Prime. Want a little dopamine boost? Post a cute selfie and watch the likes roll in. We’re so used to things happening immediately that we start to expect the same timeline for healing.

But healing doesn’t work like that.

You can’t undo years of chaos in three months. It’s like spending a decade digging a deep hole and then getting frustrated when it takes longer than a weekend to climb out. Our bodies, minds, and hearts don’t reset on command just because we’ve decided we’re ready. Healing takes time, patience, and a lot of uncomfortable moments where you wonder if anything is changing at all.

And then there’s social media, where we get a front-row seat to everyone’s highlight reel. You see someone doing yoga at sunrise, sipping matcha, and talking about how they healed in six months, and suddenly you’re questioning why you’re still stuck. But here’s the thing: YOU DON’T ACTUALLY KNOW THAT PERSON. You only think you do.

For all we know, they may not be fully healed at all. They could still be struggling behind the scenes, but we don’t see that part because social media only shows what people want us to see. A perfect example of this is Nikocado Avocado, the popular mukbang YouTuber who shocked his audience when he revealed a 250-pound weight loss after years of posting binge-eating videos. No one knew he was on a two-year transformation journey because he pre-recorded and scheduled his old content while working on his health. People assumed they knew his reality, but they were watching an illusion.

Social media makes it so easy to fall into the comparison trap, but the truth is, we rarely know the whole story. What looks like an overnight success or a quick healing journey is often years in the making, or sometimes, not what it seems at all.

Healing isn’t linear. It’s not a quick sprint to the finish line. It’s more like a winding, unpredictable hike, some days you’re making progress, and other days it feels like you’re sliding backward, but the key is to keep going, even when it feels impossible.

And let’s not gloss over just how much we’re unlearning. Most of us have spent years (if not decades) pushing our bodies and minds to the limit. We normalized chaos. We ignored red flags in relationships. We lived on caffeine, drugs, alcohol, and convenience. We ran ourselves into the ground trying to meet impossible standards, and then we wonder why it’s taking longer than a few months to feel whole again.

The truth is, healing isn’t just about adding healthy habits to your routine. It’s about untangling all the unhealthy ones that have been ingrained for years. It’s about breaking cycles of burnout, setting boundaries where none existed, and learning to trust yourself after years of ignoring your own needs. That’s not a quick fix, it’s a complete rewiring. And I am not afraid to admit I’m personally still working on all of this 🙋🏼‍♀️

So if you’re in the middle of your healing journey and feeling frustrated that things aren’t happening fast enough, I want you to remember this:

You are undoing years of damage. You are breaking patterns that took a lifetime to build. And that doesn’t happen overnight.

Give yourself grace. Celebrate the small wins, even if they feel insignificant. And don’t let the comparison trap convince you that you’re falling behind. You’re not. You’re exactly where you need to be.

One day, you’re going to look back and realize you’re not where you used to be, and that alone is proof that the work you’re doing is paying off. You should be proud.

So for now?

Be patient with yourself. Honor that messy middle. And remember, healing takes time, but it’s always worth it.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to pack my new lunch bag and mentally prepare for waking up early again. Wish me luck!!

Trust your journey. Rest your souls, lil’ saplings. Always leave people better than you found them, and have a nurturing day and a restorative weekend ahead! 👽🫶🏻🧿🌱